Greetings. Let’s see if I cannot help give you a clearer understanding of what path you should take:
Yes, current law in North Carolina mandates that when child support is initially set up by the North Carolina Child Support Enforcement it will be deducted from your spouse’s wages. Of course you should want this to happen instead of being trapped by her whims. This takes the child support issue totally out of her ability to manipulate.
You should check our on-line child support calculator to see how much the child support will be.
The benefits of joint custody, through a court order, are enforceability, more time with the children, more decision making authority. Yes, your chances of getting to see the child more often increase with joint custody. You will have a say about private school if you have joint custody.
Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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