You are not alone. I also have clients that have this terrible emotional trauma happen to them after 20 or 30 years of marriage. No matter when it happens, it is never easy. My advice is to look back on how you felt during the marriage. What happy memories do you have? What relationships with others did you create. Relish in those because they made your life enriched. You cannot fix someone else’s cruelty. I doubt that what he said is true and I think that you know deep down inside that your relationship was based on love and mutual respect in the beginning. Start to figure out a plan for the rest of your life - including some recovery time. You can only grow from this. Whatever you do, do not focus on the lies he has told you, but instead focus on the positive aspects of your life together and how you are enriched from knowing him and how you enriched his life. I hope that helps…Best of Luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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