Getting my son home


#1

If your agreement does not specifically state that the child is brought to your home at a specific time then all visitation details are left up to the parents to work out.
Do you have primary legal custody?
If you share legal custody then the visit that your ex has is his custodial time. If you will be able to reach your son or for him to reach you, even via cell phone, in case there is an emergency, then there is no reason that he needs to tell you where he is going or what they are doing. I know that this is not what you want to hear but at some point you must trust the fact that this is his father and that he will take care of him also.


#2

I have primary custody. I just don’t have any idea why he wouldn’t tell me, he would want to know where I would be taking him and I wouldn’t hesitate in telling him. Baffled.

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[i]Originally posted by stepmother[/i] [br]If your agreement does not specifically state that the child is brought to your home at a specific time then all visitation details are left up to the parents to work out. Do you have primary legal custody? If you share legal custody then the visit that your ex has is his custodial time. If you will be able to reach your son or for him to reach you, even via cell phone, in case there is an emergency, then there is no reason that he needs to tell you where he is going or what they are doing. I know that this is not what you want to hear but at some point you must trust the fact that this is his father and that he will take care of him also.

#3

Primary physical custody only means that for the majority of the time you have the responsibility for the care and maintenance of your child. It does not mean that you have control over your ex’s time with him. That would only be the case with primary legal custody. NC defaults to joint legal custody unless it is specified in the order/agreement.
Keep this in mind the next time you have something scheduled and remind him that common courtesy goes both ways…


#4

On Easter I asked my ex not to feed our son dinner so that I could have Easter dinner at my home and he agreed. I even invited him and his girlfriend and her son over. We had a disagreement on the phone about his out of state trip with our son because he won’t tell me where they are going and so he called me a bitch and said he is taking our son out to dinner on purpose. And then he said he will never bring him home on his visits that I have to come to his home and pick him up. Is that legal? How can I enforce meeting half way legally? If he doesn’t have him home on time can I call the police?