Spring Break with Dad


#1

do you have joint legal custody? Is there anything in your agreement that addresses this? What if he has no cell service where he is going? What if his cell phone dies or he drops it and breaks it? I would think it would just be common courtesy for him to provide you with some other contact info. It is a control issue and we have the exact same problem. At least you’re told that he’s going out of town!


#2

Thanks Mal, You would think it would be common courtesy, but that is void and that is the problem. I even offered a voluntary reduction in support for some courtesy, that hasn’t worked very long.

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[i]Originally posted by mal[/i] [br]do you have joint legal custody? Is there anything in your agreement that addresses this? What if he has no cell service where he is going? What if his cell phone dies or he drops it and breaks it? I would think it would just be common courtesy for him to provide you with some other contact info. It is a control issue and we have the exact same problem. At least you're told that he's going out of town!

#3

If there are no guidelines stated in your agreement then there is nothing illegal about your ex taking his son on a trip during his custodial time.
Yes it would be nice but common courtesy doesn’t usually play a part in custody issues. At least not for the first year or so…
Especially when the parents both feel that they do a better job of raising the child/children in question than the other or if they are trying to prove to the other parent that they love the child more.
After a while, it becomes easier to let the other parent have time with the child without interferring or knowing everything that goes one…we’ve been there too.


#4

out of courtesy we always let mom know in advance if and where we are going away during our custody times. She never does this for us. We usually find out from the kids that they are going away. We remain hopeful that if we continue (oh, it’s only been 6 yrs now) to do this then eventually she will do the same, but at this point the kids will all probably age out before that happens and it will be a moot point.


#5

It has been almost 5 years since he left, and our situation is growing worse. Funny we got along much better in the beginning of our separation.

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[i]Originally posted by stepmother[/i] [br]If there are no guidelines stated in your agreement then there is nothing illegal about your ex taking his son on a trip during his custodial time. Yes it would be nice but common courtesy doesn't usually play a part in custody issues. At least not for the first year or so... Especially when the parents both feel that they do a better job of raising the child/children in question than the other or if they are trying to prove to the other parent that they love the child more. After a while, it becomes easier to let the other parent have time with the child without interferring or knowing everything that goes one...we've been there too.

#6

Dad has our child this spring break. He will have him for nine days. He has told me they are going out of state for a trip. He said I only need his cell phone and I don’t need to know anything else. Is that legal? It doesn’t state out of state trips in our agreement so there is no guidelines for me to go by.