Just for the record, I am not an attorney, merely a layman. Take with approrpriate quantity of salt.
[i]Originally posted by nowinsituation[/i] [br]Incomes: Him: 400,000+ Me: 72,000
Property: Him: More than 50%
Didn’t you get the marital dwelling?
Him: Control of children's UTMAs that he can use as he wishes
Since I’m not sure what these are, I can’t really comment. But if he has primary custody of the kids, giving him control of the childrens’ bank accounts doesn’t seem (at least at first glance) to be patently unfair.
Me: I have to pay him 200.00 a month for over a year for extracurricular expenses. He does not have to pay me.
Do you pay child support? And were the activities discussed at that court hearing you missed?
He has the right to sign my child up for anything and take my custodial time. There is nothing I can do.
See above. If this was discussed at a court hearing you chose not to attend, your recourse is limited, as your opinion of what is fair is not heard or considered.
Him: Adultery Moot point I receive 24,000 a year in alimony
Since any evidence of adultery would be a moot point (alimony is most certainly going to be awarded), and based on the limited data presented, I would agree with the judge, there’s no point in hearing it, the docket is already full enough, no need to spend time on an issue when the final outcome is going to be the same.
Me: Out of work for 20 years age 52 Now have to work the rest of my life. My 72,000 is about what I could have made had I worked during the marriage. I have to sell my house and cannot pay my bills(if I was trying to live at the same "standard") on the amount I have.
Standard of living goes down when a divorce occurs, because now you’re supporting two households (instead of one) on the same amount of income, and an income of $96,000 (or even $72,000) or so is plenty to live off of. Live in a modest house, watch the expenses, and you’re good to go.
So the fact that you cannot live at the same “standard” is not unfair, IMNSHO.