I am sorry to hear about your situation. Hopefully I can provide you with some information that can help you resolve your problems.
First, you should talk to a lawyer about filing for a divorce from bed and board. That is a court-ordered legal separation where you may ask a judge to make your wife leave the home. At the same time, you would probably want to sue for custody of your children, as well as child support. Despite her low income, she would still have an obligation to pay child support.
Second, considering her current marital misconduct, it is possible that you may not have to pay alimony. In North Carolina, alimony is based on dependency, and it sounds like your wife is the dependent spouse. However, if you can show that she has committed acts of marital misconduct, you may not have to pay her anything. You should talk to a lawyer about your specific situation, and how you should proceed.
I understand your reluctance to end the marriage, but it sounds like you’ve had enough. In addition to talking to an attorney in your area about your legal options, you should also consider talking to counselor to help you and your children deal with the transitions in your lives.
I hope this helps!
Shonnese D. Stanback
The Rosen Law Firm
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Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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