Grandparents Rights in NC


#1

My daugbter in law has prevented me from visiting my Granddaughter for nearly 5 years. I babysat all the time until she was almost 7mo and then I made the mistake of offering to her the opportunity to plan 1 day a week that she could count on as hers, for appointments, sleep, whatever. She replied they’d talk about it. Talked with my son a couple times he said they hadn’t had a chance to talk. This was not sitting well as I thought and verbalized that his wife had been acting oddly towards me since their wedding the previous year. I had been afraid that Hadley would be the proverbial other shoe I’d been waiting to drop. And she was. After waiting about 2 weeks, my spineless son and my spouse went on their occasional cycle ride to Oriental. Over coffee he explained that his wife wanted me to come for at 3 days of orientation before I could spend the day with the baby. Mind you I’ve been taking care of the baby frequently until that moment. Had all the equipment.
I have been a RN since 1984, quite successfully I might add. I’d raised 3 children, the last was 16 and at home. I worked many years as a Consultant and have an unnerving knack for predictive behaviors and outcomes. I tried very hard not to fall in love with Hadley. I saw this coming. I took a picture of her little lips;my family laughed. They aren’t laughing any more. In 5 yrs I’ve seen her maybe 5 times because I barg in. March 8 I sat on her porch and she sat inside with both doors open and showed her photos I brought with a little photo album. She hugged me hard and said “I love you Nana”. That was the first I’d gotten close enough to pick her up.
Enough. I found out by accident that the parents have been separated since 4/9/15.
My son is furious. Seems like he has some plan on surprising het with the 1 yr thing. I know he’s lying about having an attorney; he sent me a cease and desist email that made me giggle.
I can not afford a Family Law attorney. I am on SS Disability at 1700/mo. I have completed a Paralegal /Nurse Consultant program for my past employer. So I’m on my own. I have tried to mediate, offered paid consuling to no avail. They ignore me.
Due to the change in the living situation would I be able to file a Request for Standing to start? Thank you, Nana


#2

We discuss grandparent visitation rights in the following article. If there is an ongoing custody dispute between your son and his ex, then you can file a motion to intervene. If there is no custody action pending, you may not have standing to pursue any legal action for visitation.