Hello. I have 2 children ages 6 and 11. My STBX has not worked since our 11 year old was born. I am still living in our 3700 sq ft home, but I am planning to leave soon because the arguments are escalating to violence. Right now I have left because things would potentially get violent. She has admitted standing over me with a knife while I slept. I am the sole provider and do not mind the fact that I will have to pay child support and some alimony, but will the judge advise her to get a job? I have a rental property with a tenant. Would I be able to offer her this property in lieu of any alimony? I want to take care of my kids but I no longer want to support her for the rest of her life after threatening mine. I understand that since she has not worked that i will likely have to pay some alimony but not for a long period of time. I also plan on moving them out of the current house to a smaller one that I would be able to afford if we were to get divorced. Another question is would I have to pay for where they lived, alimony and child support of just child support?