i just received in the mail today a letter stating that my ex boyfriend, father of our 2 3/4 yr old son, is filing a motion to decrease his child support for the follwoing reasons:
he has a newborn child ( 3 months old)
when child support was originally established (sept 07) he was working a FT job (had been there for 1 1/4 years) and is no longer with that job, self employed in construction and unemployed.
now here’s my dilemna - when my ex found out that i filed for child support, he quit that job he had been at for over a year and started working in construction b/c he knew that they couldn’t garnish his wages b/c he would be getting paid cash. the job he did have was paying $11/hr and he was working FT - he works in construction and gets paid more per hour but also works less hours due to the job/project.
we had court earlier this month for a failure to comply with court order (from previous times) and he was to come to that court date with:
proof that he has been looking for a job
proof that he went to a program to help him look for a job for people w/ felony records
he showed up with only he had submitted his resume to places, but i guess the judge saw through him, so he was sent to jail. of course he was released the next day on a $500 bond. (interesting how he doesn’t have $$ to pay child support, but he does have money to release him from jail)
is the judge going to have sympathy for him b/c of the economy situation and also the fact that he has a newborn - he is about 8 months past due on child support -he pays sporadically, sometimes he does make the full payment, sometimes he pays what he can.
the support ordered isn’t as much ($450) as others i have read about, but it does help out - i have never depended on it b/c i saw within the first couple of months that paying child support wasn’t one of his priorities, but i am getting by with my self employment - i can only afford to put our son in preschool and not ft daycare, b/c as we all know that is just sooo expensive - luckily i have family members that can watch him, but i would like to put him in FT daycare b/c it is starting to take a toll on the family members. i would have to work a ft and pt job b/c i cant depend on him taking care of his responsibilities just to make ends meet and where does that leave me time to bond and have a relationship with my son?!
i have a feeling that my ex is working under the table right now since the last court date earlier this month but not being honest about it b/c he would rather support his girlfriend, her son and their new 3 month old son they have together. he is somehow able to pay his mortgage, car payment, car insurance, cell phone, internet, online video game memberships, food, gas, etc. - although he did say last time he was having family members assist him with paying some of those bills…
is there anything i can do to make sure that this judge doesn’t decrease his payment?
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR ADVICE!!
I am just floored that he has made this request and he is not taking care of his responsibility - what kind of father/dad requests to lower his financial responsibilities to his own child???
if i can make it on my own being self employed i think he should be expected to also! i have a feeling he just wants to live off the government (food stamps, wic, medicaid, etc.) so that way he can use the excuse that he is unemployed to qualify for that assistance and also get out of paying his child support