Thanks for the responses.
I think I’m more upset that I’m not told any of these things, I have to hear it from the children. I know if I came to him and said “oh, by the way… this guy, that you’ve never met is going to live with me and the children” he would throw a fit.
Anyway, the only clause in the separation agreement is that I cannot have a roommate in any way during my alimony. Also, yes I know he was dating her in May, and we signed our separation papers in Mid July.
I totally agree about keeping my cool with the children. When they ran up to me all excited saying “Guess what? We have a new Mommy!” it was hard, but I did it. I just talk to them nicely about her, tell them I’m glad she’s such a nice person. I have explained to them though that she is Daddy’s girlfriend, and a friend to them, but I am their only Mommy. But yah, when they talk all excited about her and the fun things they do my typical response is “wow, I’m glad you guys had a nice time… she sounds like a lot of fun!”
So yah, I’m trying to keep it normal for the children and move on with things. I’m just really upset about this lack of communication.
Don’t you ever want to give your x’s new boyfriend/girlfriend the heads up though? HAHA. Like… have fun now, talk to me again in 6 months!