16 yrs of marriage. 16 yrs of being bullied, verbally abused by my wife (yes my wife). She constantly undermines and puts me down in front of our girls (13 & 7). I have no fatherly authority, nor say in my own home. She sleeps with our daughters mainly the 13 yr old and confides in them everything about our marriage issues.
Every decision is “her way or hell to pay”. No compromises.
This is my plan:
*** Please tell me if a Judge would frown on it / it work against me if we went to court ***
- Leaving without warning while everyone else if out for the day.
- Packing up a Moving Truck with half of furniture.
Plan to take our King Sized bed, as she has not slept in it for 3 years.
- Taking all MY things.
I seriously considering:
4) Taking items of my wife’s and our children’s that mean a lot to my wife. I’m talking about boxes of the girls memories in storage, not any of the girls’ toys, furniture, etc. Also framed pictures in our house and Photo Albums.
My thought is to use theses items as use as Leverage to get her to :
a) agree to sell the house (as it is in both our names and she refuses to sell it).
b) to work with me on a civil separate agreement.
- Stop paying the mortgage as leverage again for reasons “a & b” above, and so I can pay for a small, cheap apartment.
I want the clock on my One Year separate residences to begin ASAP, so I can get a divorce.
She does not work. Refuses to.
I have been working 2 to 3 jobs for the past ten years ! to accomodate her lifestyle !