My husband and I are seperating August 1 so that we can divorce. We currently live together, but that’s when the lease is up on the house we rent and I can resign in just my name (which I’ve already done). I have been a stay-at-home mom for 9 1/2 years. We have been married for 7 years. The child born before our marriage is his and we have lived together that entire time. We now have one other child born after the marriage. I am in school, but will not be finished until August 8. Then I will have to wait to take a NC board exam to become licensed. My questions are as follows:
Is there anything I can file for now knowing I have an “upcoming hardship”? When Aug. 1 rolls around, I will be living strictly off my savings. If I file for child support on August 1, approximately how long will it take me to start receiving payments? Are they retrograde to the time he left?
Will I immediately qualify for any sort of government assistance until I get a job and start making money?
Once he leaves with the material items that he wants, is he “allowed” to come back for more since we will only be seperated and not divorced?
I know that he has a lawyer to “get things taken care of the right way.” Frankly, I can’t afford a lawyer AND afford to live until I get a job (and, even then, things will be tight for me). I know that he doesn’t want to pay child support and I imagine that is why he’s seeing the lawyer. I also know that he is obligated to pay since I will be the primary caretaker. Any advice in this area?
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