My fiance and I are trying to find a way to get regular visitations with his 3 children they live about 30 minutes away in Rutherford county. We live in Gaston county and he has mutually agreed visitation. His ex-wife has not allowed him any contact with his kids in over 2 years, nor from his side of the family. His ex has filed false charges against him in the past and that is why he will not go to her property and wait for the kids to come out to tell them he loves them and thinks about them daily.
My fiance is on disability and that is our only income–we can’t afford an attorney, and legal aid doesn’t have the resources to take the case. I have been fortunate that a lawyer is going to help us get started, but his area of practice is not in family law. He has asked us to get all the court orders and paperwork together, my problem is we can’t find it. We moved and have appearently lost them. Is there a place I can get it online or will the court house have copies and what does it cost? Is there anywhere that would do a visitation order/amendment pro bono? If so who and where?
I am also concerned about the children’s living conditions. My fiance has told me about his ex’s cleanliness at home. He had come home from jobs when still married to her and there were magets, and roaches in the house. He had helped her move once and the house she was moving from was filthy. He told me that the cabinets in the kitchen had been “painted” by one of the kids with pasta sauce. Last October he got a call from DSS and someone had made a report that her home was infested with rats and roaches and wanted to know if he had any concerns. He told them about those above and more. They gave her the notice and she cleaned up like always. I drove by there the beginning of June to slip a birthday card under the door for Emily’s 7th birthday. No one was home, but the windows were cracked, and 1 broken completely–not boarded up. There was trash mixed with toys and rocks, no railing on the steps, but a 3 foot drop, also furniture stacked in the yard and molding. I emailed a lady at Rutherford county DSS the pictures I took with my phone they were poor quality and hard to tell what was in them. I told her my concerns and those of my fiance–haven’t heard anything back and do not think they took me seriously, knowing that I am the fiance of the childrens father. I personally find living in filth disgusting and would not want my children or anyone elses in those conditions. Is there anything more I can do?
When he had been allowed overnight visits she had brought the kids hyped on sugar, in filthy clothes or just a diaper that was soiled. She did not bring a change of clothes either. When he asked her if she would bring some by she told him NO! and thus he had to go buy them something to wear while he washed their soiled clothing–I hope she puts them in clean clothes now–none are in diapers which is for the best. They are 5, 7, and 11 years old as of this year. I am hoping and praying he can see them soon!
Forgive me for my long and indepth post.