Mediation


#1

Across a table? Try right next to each other, about 3-4 feet with nothing to separate.

Do what I did. You make the demands and let her yell. Kinda funny that you’re so calm while she’s be unreasonable.

Meditation is about custody for your kids only. Not child support or anything else.


#2

So if there are no kids in the picture, then no mediation is necessary? We have no kids…no mediation?


#3

Dear ssteach714:

Greetings. If ED is decided, then mediation should have already occurred. Mediation for equitable distribution (ED) does not typically happen in the same room, but in separate rooms with the mediator going in between the rooms. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm

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#4

Also, no - mediation is required in certain counties for equitable distribution also. Only it is not free - you must pay for the mediator. Thank you.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm

4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

301 McCullough Drive Suite 510
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax

1829 East Franklin Street, Bldg 600
Chapel Hill, NC 27514
919.321.0780 main phone
919.787.6668 main fax

ROSEN.COM

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.


#5

Hello:

Mediation for child custody is court ordered and the attorney cannot attend. However, you can have mediation for every other issue and generally you attend with your attorney. Have a great day.

Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm

4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
919.787.6668 main phone
919.256.1665 direct fax

301 McCullough Drive Suite 510
Charlotte, North Carolina 28262
704.644.2831 main voice
704.307.4595 main fax

1829 East Franklin Street, Bldg 600
Chapel Hill, NC 27514
919.321.0780 main phone
919.787.6668 main fax

ROSEN.COM

The response posted above is based upon the limited factual information made available and is not intended as a full and complete response to the question. The only reliable manner to obtain complete and adequate legal advice is to consult with an attorney, fully explain your situation, and allow the attorney sufficient opportunity to research the applicable law and facts required to render an accurate opinion. The basic information provided above is intended as a public service but a full discussion with an attorney should be undertaken before taking any action.


#6

What about for visitation disputes. Can that be solved by a mediator and can the attorney be present? I have three preteen/teen girls who do not wish for the “standard visitation schedule” but to arrange visitation around their school and social lives. The oldest one drives and dad lives very close. They also do not wish to “be forced” to spend the night when their “home” is just down the street. They prefer to come home to their own bed.

Dad will not budge and wishes the judge to decide. I wonder if he is thinking about the reduction in CS if they spend the night everyother weekend. Currently dad only sees them once a week for a dinner at a restaurant. Since Oct he has distanced himself from them, and they from him. Will the courts ever recommend family counselling for them?


#7

I can’t answer your questions but I can tell you that there will be no reduction in CS if they’re only spending the night with their Dad EOW. My DH sees his DD EOW and gets one weekday overnight. There hasn’t been a modification of CS for some time, but, if there was a modification, I doubt very seriously his CS would be lowered. If anything, it’d probably increase.


#8

Where does the mediation process fall into line with the ED process? If ED is already decided by a judge, then why does North Carolina make two people (especially two people who truly can’t stand each other like in my case) go through that type of a proceeding where we are sitting across a table from one another discussing things that have already been decided?