My ex insisted on split custody of our minor children. They spend a week with me, then a week with him. This is handled informally as we have no signed separation agreement and are going to court in a couple months.
The ex continues to make plans to be out of town during his week prior to asking me if it is OK for the kids to stay with me. I have asked him to speak to me prior to making plans in case I have plans of my own. He has said he would find ‘alternate adult supervision’ if this happens.
He also insists that me having extra time with the kids (my share of overnights is greater than 50%) doesn’t mean he should have to pay more in child support. I want all the time I can get with my kids, but do not like my ex’s thoughtless actions and think child support should be fair and not always in his favor.
Is finding ‘alternate adult supervision’ (probably his live-in girlfriend) acceptable?
Would I be better off to ask for more than 50/50 shared custody when we go to court?