I think what trbotina is getting at is that child support more than daycare, health insurance. NC looks at the formula as if you were still married-how much per month would it take to raise that child based on gross income. When you’re married, you don’t see the actual amount (groceries, clothes, home/utilities, doctor, school)…you just pay it as normal living expenses.
My brother is paying the same amount of child support he was when both kids were in daycare. He could have had it changed, but with increase in income and the expense to have it changed-he left it. He realizes that now, the kids have other expenses that they didn’t then (more clothes, cell phones, driving a car, car insurance, extracurricular activities, more food…) Yes, the child can get a job to help-but it doesn’t cover it all.
Unfortunately, you can’t dictate what the child support money is spent on. I can see how that would make you mad to see the ex doing things that may be using he money you send for your daughter.
As in my earlier post on divorce-I’ve seen and lived both sides. I rarely see a happy, amicable, fair to both parties arrangement. Someone always feels wronged, jilted, cheated, deprived. It is hard.