I just received a job offer that requires me to move cross country and I’m contemplating on taking it. If things don’t go as planned, how can I protect myself for not losing property etc. We do not have kids.
I am not ready to file but I do want to figure out best way to protect myself if things were to go south.
1-We own a house and his name is on the deed, I had to put his name as at the time I was on a green card and having the name on the deed would help with my immigration status. Also, I was told it doesn’t matter since we were already married at the time. However, the house was bought by my mom as a gift to me only. I have the bank statements showing the money in my personal account before the marriage. It is fully paid for and there’s no mortgage on it. Would there be a way to work out a situation where I just get the money from the house, he can apply for a loan against the house, and he can keep the house? Or is it 50/50 division no matter what?
2- Since he will be staying in the house while I move for my job, would that mean abandonment by me if we were to file? How can I make sure this is not the case?
3-Before I move out, can we maybe write up an agreement for separation of items even though we will not be filing to have as evidence for a later date?
4- If I am at another state for more than 6 months, would I need to file through that state? How would that affect the proceedings? I think for NC state you need to be separated for a year before filing, if the state I’m moving to doesn’t have such a thing does that supersede it?
5- I keep hearing about absolute divorce and tried to read up on it but can’t really understand. Does that mean, you have everything already figured out between two parties (separation of property etc) and just want to separate without having to go to court etc? If not, is there a way to do something like this?