I’m in the early stages but there is already a wrinkle. I have a plutonic (but opposite sex) friend who has grown to love my 11yo son over the years and now that I’m separating she’s helping my son deal with the changes (she’s a teacher). My son’s mom [STBX] is saying that he can never see this friend and certain family members - not only while he’s visiting me, but FOREVER. She’s angry at my friend because she knew I was leaving months beforehand but didn’t tell her. Can she do this? Can my soon-to-be ex exercise that much control over our behavior even while not in attendance?
And isn’t this a bad idea for my STBX in regards to her future relationship with her own son? I mean, when he finds out he’ll react and I’ll guess not well.
Comments? Suggestions? Can she do this?