Greetings. I am sorry to hear about the deception you lived with for so long. I am intrigued though, since you have an attorney, are you not able to get your questions answered? This worries me for you longterm.
Yes, technically he committed abandonment, but in today’s society, the judges realize that someone has to leave. I don’t think this is relevant or an issue I would focus any of your attention on. Not seeking marriage counseling and refusing to come home is not relevant to abandonment. It sounds to me that you may be feeling slightly guilty for asking him to leave, but I think that you should banish those thoughts. It was either he leave or you be dragged down with the gambling debts with him.
Whoa…slow down. You have a lot of anxiety over the alimony. Speak with your attorney about the likely outcomes of alimony. Yes, the gambling may play a part in helping to increase the amount of alimony you receive, but so will the cheating. Remember that at the end of the day, after all the fault is listed, alimony is a financial issue. What do you need to survive and prosper.
He is doing “divorce” planning. With a gambler, I would wager that you are going to have to file a court action to get him to do what is right.
He is wrong.
Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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