Need some help before I seperate


I am hoping that an attorney will soon help me answer my questions. I thank you in advance for any help you can offer.



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I make about $80,000 a year and my husband makes about $45,000. We have been married 3 years

Our assets are as follows:
house (bought for $75,000 now worth $250,000) and 2 cars.

There are 2 pieces of land, one in his name solely (bought for $38,000 and now worth $200,000) and one in his mothers and his name jointly. (bought for $48,000 and now worth $225,000)

I pay the house mortgage, all bills incurred for the house and the payment on the vehicle that I drive. I do not have any credit card debt.

He pays his truck payment, a land payment on the land that is in his name and his credit card bills (I believe he has about $10,000 in debt) and the cards are in his name solely.

I work on commision and make the chunk of my money in the summer, some remains in savings but it is also what I live off over the winter. I currently have about $20,000 in my account.

These are my questions:

  1. Is the $20,000 in my account considered marital assets? He could have a savings also but spends more then he makes.
    My money is in an account with only my name. He has his own seperate checking account. We do not have any accounts with both our names on them.

  2. Being that the house is in both our names he refuses to move out. Is there a way to force him too? Do I need to file a seperation first? What are the steps?

  3. My husband is an alcoholic (which is my reasoning for wanting to end the marriage) and I am thinking about filing a Divorce from Bed & Board. I am understanding that this is an authorized seperation but does not end our marriage. What would be the reason for doing this and what do you do after to legally end the marriage?

  4. Does the amount of money that I have paid into the house matter when it is divided? I have not made any payments on the land but if I did not pay the house mortgage he would not be able to pay the land mortgage. He purchased the land about 6 months before we were married, while we were living together. I am hoping to keep the house and understand that I may have to pay him something for it, do I have any right to the land, or can it at least be used in bargaining for the house?