When I was divorced 3 years ago, my ex insisted on a clause in our agreement forbidding “overnight guests of the opposite gender, not related by blood or marriage”. My kids are older now and have healed well from the divorce and I am close to the point of moving in with a woman who I have been seing for a year. I have secondary custody of my kids and see them every other weekend.
Is there a valid argument that such an arrangement would be outside the breadth of that clause because she would not be an “overnight guest” if we were both permanent residents. I realize its kind of a semantic argument but the reason for the original protection is no longer there, and I want to find a way to satisfy the terms of the agreement. My kids love my girlfriend and want her around and we’re in a responsible, adult, monogamous relationship. The only other option I can think of would be to marry her, but we’ve both been through awful divorces and are somewhat gun-shy and it seems ridiculous to get married just to satisfy a single term in this agreement which is no longer really relevant, given the kids’ psychological maturation. Can you offer any advice, please?