Not responding

I’m getting ready to separate. My husband is currently in another state. Me and my child moved here in 2007. After he got laid off back in July 2009 he said he’d be joining us, never did. Recently, he hasn’t returned phone calls or email not even to my young son. I know he’s alive because I sent police over there to check on him last month. We haven’t heard from him since early April. Yes, I’ve been to see him twice and both times hes managed to calm my fears and promise the world. My question is: if I go ahead and do this, whats to keep him from not responding? I don’t want to spend thousands of dollar just waiting around for this man to make up his mind.

I suggest you file an action for child custody, support, and equitable distribution of property. The courts set deadlines to which he must respond.