My soon-to-be ex filed for divorce, and I was served last week.
He said he was filing for joint custody, too, but nothing has hit the books yet.
Since I’m in Wake County, I rushed to file for custody, so this would at least be done in Wake county.
My 33 month old has been with me Primarily, since 8/18/05. He’s only asked to see her a handful of times.
I took her to see him and the grandmother, great grandparents, in August this last time … he’d actually asked me not to come, b/c he’d had a “rough night”, and been out all night, and in no shape for her to see him. Of course, I was 10 min. from there, so we showed up anyway … he hugged her, spent 10 min. with her, and left. That’s the last he’s seen her, and the last he’s asked to see her.
I, naively, have offered to take her to see that side of the family, and he’s turned me down.
Not paying anything for her.
I filed for Child Support a few wks ago, after I got the house ready for sale, and made sure he showed up to sign everything at closing. He’d threatened me NOT to file for Child Support, or he wouldn’t show up to the closing, and would just let it go to foreclosure.
THIS IS THE MENTALITY I’m dealing with.
I’ve tried to be nice.
He’s very nice, until you piss him off … then he kind of blacks out and goes crazy (bipolar/manic depression).
I’m meeting attorney at 3:30 today, paying $2500 retainer.
I’m hearing from diff. ppl who’ve been thru similar situations, that I might run thru this money quickly.
He’s bankrupted me, left me with all the bills until we settle in court, knows I’m strapped, and now trying to get my daughter, to whom he’s shown no interest in basically, except for crying straight for the first 6 months we were separated, but not getting the help he needed to get in order to hlelp our family stay together.
He keeps screwing me … I’ll get over it, but I have to be VERY SMART AND SWIFT in protecting my daughter as long as I can from his craziness.
I’m I doing the right thing, or does anyone see anything obvious that I"m missing?
A judge would be insane to award him any type of custody. But, that’s my opinion.
Can I ask for visitation rights for him, but on my terms, and supervised, and subject to a pre-drug screen/alcohol screen?