Separated and engaged

No it is not illegal, because an engagement isn’t a legal thing. There is married and not married. Getting married before divorcing your first spouse is obviously illegal. [:D]It is however illegal to have sex with someone other than your spouse while married (even while seperated).
While I cannot say whether engagement prior to divorce reflects poorly on the other person, I can only imagine it could in regards to custody. It could also possibly provide fuel for an Alienation of Affection or Criminal Conversation suit, if it looks like the relationship was started prior to seperation.

Best of luck!

Keep in mind though that being engaged does show that you are in a stable relationship providing that the separation was not your desire…
If the person you are engaged to is stable and the children/child get’s along well with them there is not a lot that can be done…I would advise against admitting sexual relationship though…

Thanks all! I am actually going to court over custody with my ex-hus. I am happily remarried, and he married a woman he knew for 6 weeks, then she left him two weeks later (she also had 3 kids with her for the ride) A month later he has a new girlfriend and a few more months later they are talking about getting married as soon as his “next” divorce can be final. I was just wondering how the courts would see this. It will, technically, be his 3rd wife in 3 years time.

I think the courts there’s a good chance the courts could see this as a change of circumstances that may provide enough reason to change current custody arrangements.

There is is no law that prohibits him from getting engaged. If this is indicative of impulsive behavior it may have an impact at the custody trial, especially if there is something inappropriate about this person.

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Hi all,

Was wondering if anyone knew, if someone is separated, then gets re-engaged to someone new a few months later, is that illegeal? Or will it reflect poorly in a very moral Judges eyes during custody trial?