[size=100]I truly don’t understand what we have done pertaining to the laws of our state on divorce, ED and custody. I’m in the middle of ED and child custody dispute. We were granted a divorce through separation (That’s because there is no “adultery” claim in this state anymore… When did we decide to throw THAT out???)
She admittedly, (and by a written statement from her now new husband), had an affair after nearly 3 years of marriage to me and a 2-year-old daughter. Even though she has extreme emotional problems, she convinced both her attorney and mine… (I have since fired this one and hired a new one), that she have primary custody and I can have my daughter “any time I want her”… which now, is FOUR DAYS A MONTH…down from “whenever you want her”… Her new husband gets to see my child every day, talk to her, read her stories, tuck her in bed… I only get her when she “allows” me to… my FOUR days a month.
I have been fighting for custody since the split and she keeps winning at every turn. They tell me that, even though I keep asking for more time with my daughter, it’s “up to her” whether I get it or not, (because she is the primary caregiver), even though I have done nothing wrong… . NOTHING…
In fact, I tried to keep the marriage together but she kept bouncing back and forth between her lover and me. She left me and took my daughter… and left me with all the bills… (which she never contributed to anyway)…
Now, she is refusing to sign with the realty company so I can get the $1,000 dollar mortgage off my back every month. (I’m also paying nearly $650.00 a month in CS on top of it all.) She is insisting on using “HER” choice of real estate brokers… or she won’t sign. Another example of her manipulation.
She also insists on a sum for the house that we will never get… Of course, she wants “her 50 % share” of the profits… even though I will probably be forced to pay complete closing costs, too, all by myself. Is there any way to ask for a judge to intervene so I can sell this property under these circumstances?
How can she, if she has NEVER paid a dime, expect 50% of the profits? She moved out of our house several months ago. And, by the way, took everything in the house the court order told her NOT TO. And, they tell me I can’t force her to pay half of any bill on the house or for the house because the deed only says she will get it if I die… and she is NOT on the mortgage itself. I guess I better watch my back, eh?
Can I do anything about her taking items out of the house after a court order says neither of us can take anything out of it other than personal items?
Next, I just found out tonight that she has just left the state with my child… There is a court order stating she cannot leave the state with her. My community law enforcement officer tells me tonight, “it’s a civil matter… take it up with your attorney”… and refused to help in any way. It was “her” weekend with the child… and she can’t be made to bring her back. Besides, she will just receive a “slap on the wrist” for doing it anyway. (Their words exactly). Is this true and what can I do legally now??
Is this all that is protecting my daughter?? If I had been the one to leave with her, I would be behind bars before morning and probably face a court martial… She would make sure of it.
All those thousands of dollars that we all have paid for divorces, legal agreements, custody determinations, what good are they if we can’t enforce them??? Why is it she ALWAYS wins??? She had the affair on ME…and had several of them I just found out last week from old mutual friends of ours (which, by the way, are willing to testify).
Then she told the attorney that I was never around my child (which is a lie)… because I was always gone… I have done several tours in Iraq, but I have taken care of that little girl every night she headed for the bar and then some! I have evidence and witnesses to prove it.
Now, she will NOT LET me see my daughter unless it is within my four day period, but her new husband gets to see her every day… I had to agree to four days a month so I could see her at all after she hid her from me for over two months this past January. My first attorney told me to just sign her agreement that “my ex was willing to let me see her whenever I wanted. Don’t worry.”
I was desperate at the time to see her… Still am… and it’s worse than before. Now she has a new “daddy” with her every day.
This is an atrocity of justice… There is so much more to this story. How she has won at every turn… I have several MONTHS worth of recordings to prove my every word I’m saying… She is evil… manipulating… and a pathological liar and I can prove it all but no one seems to care… “Just wait until discovery…”… Which will be “sometime in the fall.” What happens between then and now and what will she get by with by then? She’s wanting to MOVE out of the state entirely!! Can she do that and take my daughter without my permission? Will I be overruled by the judge if I resist?? I’ll never see my child again if this happens. She wants to take her to California!!
I hope my daughter doesn’t forget me by then… I hope someday she will grow up and realize that daddy fought so hard for her… And I’m betting that my ex will try her best to see that she doesn’t.
Sorry this is so long… but I’m so tired of all of this and very worried about my daughter. I am loosing hope fast that I will ever have any part in her life. [size=12][/size][/size]