we live on the coast. my wife convinced me to rent our primary home which is on the ocean this summer. she would take the children to kansas. she established residency in kansas and three weeks before school starteded told me that she was staying in kansas and that we needed a divorce, in kansas which can occur after her 60 days of residency. she venue shop for better child support and possibly alimony.
she filed ex parte order allege threats, totally untrue but did not serve me in nc so that i would be unaware of her plan. she claimed i was a flight risk with the kids because i was planning a one week vacation to texas, i did not know at the time she was never returning.
the main problem from an objective level is that my wife severly limits my access to the children. five phone calls all summer dispite my having surgery and working during the hurricane etc… she threatened me if i visited kansas. as a physician it is ludicrous to believe that i would harm a child, i am a pediatric specialist and needing supervised visitation in ks is a joke. my nc lawyer in carteret county believes i can file to have nc jurisdiction, although she believes that we should strike a deal, because the nc court bias is to allow people to leave and males loose custody battles. texas, colorado, and kansas would frown on a spouse leaving without strong best interest of a child. a child best interest is both parents close to children in those states, i dont know about nc. my fear is that my wife will lie even further until either i am in jail, defending myself all the time or she gets to leave.
as aphysicain relocating my practice to kansas is cost prohibitive. as a physician my schedule would be extremelly difficult to see my children 1500 miles away. i get scattered 10-12 days off a month, but cannot cluster for travel well because of my practice logistics. additionaly when i am not working, i am on backup call as a rare specialist in a rural area on the coast. my vacations are actually staying withen short driving distance actually. my vacation this week was actually working because of hurricane irene. maybe my wife would move to the triangle. i love children, my career is taking care of them, and now i feel my kids are going to be gone forever or i will only see them 2-3 times a year while paying a child support well above the top threshold.
our childrens entire lives and all assets are in NC. my wife is a nurse and can work anywhere. additionally she is going to school at duke for nurse practioner. my wife wants to live with her parents. she is 37 and we have been married 12 years. we have no seperation agreement , my wife refuse same. she planned this all along. she can attend school anywhere, she just misses her mom in kansas.