She wants nearly all my income and my son

I moved to Hawaii 6 months ago for a job as my wife and i agreed. She was supposed to follow after she got the dog ready. Now she has a vendeta against me and I need help. Missed temporary arrangement case last month. Next hearing is Dec. 12th in NC. don’t have any savings just my paycheck. Court ordered temporary alamony is more than i can pay. Please help me figure out what I should do. She won’t let me talk to my son which is causing me to about have nervouse breakdown (can’t stop crying when i think about it).