Should I answer her?

She left August 28, 2022. We’ve lived in separate residences since then with everything separate…finances, residences and etc. Our intention was to work on our marriage and reconcile, with me moving back in with her in July 2023. We had a major disagreement in April 2023 and I decided not to move in with her and have remained separated. I want a divorce now.
She still wants to reconcile and I refuse to see her. She is now texting me asking if I want a divorce?
If I respond and tell her I do want a divorce is there any way it can be held against me? Can it be held against me if I refuse to respond to her at all and just wait to file for divorce as soon as I legally can file?

You do not have to respond to her, nor can she use your lack of a response against you.

Similarly, based on the limited information you’ve provided, there would likely be no harm in responding saying you do want a divorce.


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