here is the story. my son has started 3 different extracurricular groups this year. There is a requirement of some of the groups for his attendance and various group functions like parades, football games, etc. These events can and have fallen on my visitation weekend. I get them (i have another son as well) every other friday night and drop them back off on sunday night at a location equal distance from my home and my ex’es. The one way distance from my home to my ex’s home is 170 miles. We meet half way per court order.
I don’t have any issue trading weekends when needed but feel that i am a very positive influence in both my son’s lives. I take them hiking, camping, etc and they really like those things. I feel they need me now more than ever as they both enter high school.
My concern is what happens if/when activities occur every weekend? Should i not get them? Get them and make them skip an activity? Going down to the activity which usually will fall on a saturday means no overnight with me, their dad, at my home. I feel this is wrong. i want them to have activities but not every one of my weekends.
Please give me any advise you can think of.
I don’t want to be “selfish” and make them visit with me when they have activities but i also want to be in their lives the full weekends i get them. As I said, i get them for only 60 nights a year and these activities will probably cut that in half.