If your husband fails to have contact or pay support for your child for a period of two years, then you can move to terminate his parental rights. You can do this on your own, however it is not an area of law that I traditionally practice in and could not give you specific advise on the procedure.
The rules regarding service vary from country to country. You will need to contact the embassy for the country he is residing him and ask them about the rules regarding legal service in their country. In some countries you can simply serve him via certified mail. You would serve yourself well if you can do a little detective work and try to narrow down his location.
Helena M. Nevicosi
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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