Greetings. You will need to serve him by publication for the divorce in the last known area that he lived. I suggest that you retain an attorney for this.
Also, you clearly have the grounds for termination of parental rights and you would also have to serve him by publication for that too.
Have you tried to file for child support with the child support enforcement agency. I think that they can look up his social security number for information on where he is living/working. Thank you.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
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Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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