Hi,
My ex-wife basically created a work of fiction disguised as a civil summons in order to take the kids away from me. Unless the entire system is corrupt beyond repair, which I don’t believe it is, there’s no way she can take my kids away. I have no prior record and I’ve never done anything to compromise their safety.
So much so that she willingly lives three doors down from me so we can allow our kids to go back-and-forth from house to house.
There is no child support paid because we had 50-50 custody so we just used to split the finances
Right now she has 100% custody until we settle this in court. If she wins, I will pay less than she will because it will be based on income, and right now she makes more than I do.
But we don’t know what the outcome is going to be. So we have absolutely no custodial agreement involving money at all.
She’s trying to go under the table I guess you could say and intimidate me into paying her a bunch of money that she feels I should pay her for child care expenses, but we do not have any sort of custody agreement yet. Nobody really knows who is going to pay how much, and the court has not presented or ordered an amount or a payment for me to give her.
She provided no receipts for the Items she wants to be reimbursed for, and of course I 100% will pay to support my children, I’ve never not paid. But I don’t have a court order to do so yet.
I cannot put together an accurate contribution based on the spreadsheet that she put together. It’s my understanding through my attorney that the court will order and confirm our new child custody financial responsibilities, and until that is confirmed, we have no payment agreement.
I am being advised not to pay anything because right now nothing has been decided as far as how much I owe. Our old custody agreement has been replaced by the temporary order, and probably because we’re not even in trial yet, the finances weren’t even addressed.
So it’s my understanding that no payments or activity involving finances should be taking place outside of the court, or under the table if you will, until this case is settled and new custodial financial terms are confirmed
Is that correct? Because she’s painting me to be a deadbeat that doesn’t want to contribute. The truth is, I’ll be the first in line at the courthouse with payments ready once I have been ordered by the court to do so and told how much to pay.
So I guess my question is, a temporary custody order replaces any prior custody agreement, correct?
So the only thing official regarding our custody arrangement is whatever is in the temporary custody order as of now, correct?
Going back to agreements in the divorce settlement, which states we just split the cost because the custody is 50/50, that agreement is dissolved and no longer valid because we do not have 50-50 custody anymore, is that correct?
Am I following good legal advice and should I continue to go through the court during this custody process, or should I just give her some approximate amount of money she claims I owe her?
Because legally and technically, I don’t owe anybody anything yet until the judge puts together an order that says the amount that I do owe now, and when it needs to be paid, right?
Sorry I’ve probably asked a very simple question using tons of words and paragraphs. I’m stressed out. Thank you!