I am worried though. My wife was having a affair even though she has ended it she did some bizzare things that scare me about a trial separation:
- Her affair partner was an ex-cop who pointed her at an safe haven domestic violence group (she feels I emotionally abused her) and he had coached her to file harassment complaints against me (nothing legally got back to me) with the police department to bolster her case if we got divorced. I followed her once to find that she was at the guys house.
- She has been coached by the abuse folks to sneak money out of our bank account (a couple of $400 increments, plus cash back when buying groceries) amount around $1500.
- She took $20k from our savings account for legal fees (lawyer or abuse people directed her – $13k retainer, $2k consulting fees, and $5k in case she wanted to throw the book at me with abuse charges) but she has since put it back into out savings.
- She is in counseling for emotional abuse and sexual abuse from her brother and father when she was young and (to me) is in a major midlife crisis.
- She lied and concealed and went underground with the affair claiming she wasn’t even having one (because they didn’t have intercourse) up until a few days ago. Our kids 13/14 know as well as her family. I believe she has stopped seeing him.
To make that long story short, I am worried about her mental stability and entering a trial separation agreement. Even though I want to reconcile I feel like I still have a ticking time-bomb here.
Here is my question: If we alternate in the apartment with a trial separation, is there anything legally I can create that can stop her from filing for “exclusive rights” to our marital home if she wants to file for divorce. I have been told by my lawyer and many infidelity counselors NOT to leave my home unless we have a legal separation/divorce on the books.
AM I ASKING FOR TROUBLE?