Greetings. First, I am sorry to hear about the situation between you and your attorney. I also wanted to warn you that if you file for divorce and obtain a divorce judgement and have not resolved the issues of alimony and equitable distribution through a separation agreement or court order, then you lose the right to file for alimony and/or equitable distribution when the divorce is entered.
Now, I suggest that you have a long talk with this attorney or find another one that you can trust. If I were you, I would pick the last option. Also, you can file for your own divorce here in NC and the forms our on our website. Your husband can be served by either Sheriff in the county he resides or by certified mail, regardless of which state he lives in. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney at Law
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 200
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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