this question is for unwed parents
could you please define reasonable visitation? i think this issue is a huge problem because NC laws doesnt give a set number of hours, and what one thinks is reasonable, isnt…appparently! due to both parents being in college, time frames were restricted due to class times. father agreed to 3 times per week, every wed 3-8 every fri 3-8 every sunday 9 am to 6 pm. and one night per month for a toddler. however, he was given more time in between, totalling no less than 80 hours per month i think the max was around 96 hours. he never paid child support, refused when asked. only provided bare minimum material things. The extra time was not told to judge in court, (attorney was afraid it would go more in favor of father if extra time was mentioned…but it went in fathers favor regardless)… however, father tried to (and apparently did) convince the court that the mother refused him more time than the agreed upon wed fri sun and one night per week, and that went against the mother?? the father did repeatedly ask for more time, but, was told that once he started supporting his child, then they could discuss more visitation times, his response was, “if you want child support, you will have to take me to court!!” the child is very young, so the mother felt that the time given per week/per month was fair and reasonable, considering he wasnt being fair to the child and supporting the child.
another question…does the judge have a legal obligation to read/hear testimony against one of the parents for SEVERAL sexual misconducts with more than one MINOR that is NOT their child?? or can they refuse to hear it because “it has no relevance to how that person is as a parent”?..charges werent pressed, however, statements were given to attorney, as well as to a criminal investigator, and facebook messages between the grandmother and a relative discussing the situations LONG BEFORE the father and mother split up… as well as an instant message conversation between the one parent and one of the “victims” where they admit that what they done was wrong…everywhere i read, it discusses sexual abuse on THEIR OWN child, but NO WHERE is it said that if the parent has been ACCUSED, of sexual assaults on minors other than their child. same goes for assaults…the laws are for “domestic abuse”…meaning husband/wife boyfriend/girlfriend…but, what if one parent and the child are living with their own parents, and the grandparent of the child is physically assaulted (punched) by the other parent? how could these two situations affect child custody cases in court?