Long story short. Separated 11/17. Children and I left marital home taking only furniture, clothes, toys and whatever we needed to live. Mediation 12/2 yielded kids staying with me, him having visitation every other weekend, Thursday dinner night and splitting breaks and intercessions and remainder of ED, etc. to be worked out within 30 days or it goes to court. He agreed to NC guideline child support (which I won’t see until they iron out the EXACT number of overnights, which won’t be ironed out until most likely we get to court which won’t be until Jan or Feb). Meanwhile he refuses to give me any money for anything.
He is taking the girls on a trip to Pennsylvania for four days to visit his mother the last week in December and has informed me that “he needs the car for the trip to PA”. The car he has is one I purchased prior to marriage (not good shape to go to PA). The one I have is one I took when I left, marital property but was purchased with the idea that it was used mainly because we needed to have something safe for the girls and because I was the primary caregiver, it was “my car” though it is in his name because when it was purchased, he was working and I only had a home business. To get the better rate, they said it was better to go in his name … however, still marital property.
Now he says “i need the car to go to PA”. What right does he have to take the ONLY car I have when he can rent one? He claims he has “no money”. He had $60k in a 401K until he pulled most of it out so that I won’t get any of it in ED so yes, he has money. He can rent a car. He hasn’t said a word about the car except to tell me to get it inspected so he can get it registered (still haven’t seen an updated registration).
So … do I have to give him the car for this trip? In my eyes, I shouldn’t have to. Why inconvenience me because he doesn’t want to spend money to rent a car for a trip that HE planned?