Okay, alittle confused.
If we are divorced and no custody has been done yet, I can’t date yet because he might use that against me?
Maybe I read and understood it wrong, but is that what you are saying stepmother?
I honestly think that he is being nice because I found out about his little secret. Everytime he belittled me, it was him doing what he was saying to me. Even thou I had to tell him that I wasn’t doing anything. I guess what I’m saying is, He was feeling the quilt and pushing it on me to make me feel like crap.
But, if i start dating after the divorce, will that hurt the custody? I really don’t see how because I would never put my children in danger again, like I did with him. He was the abusive one to the children. Plus I have had temp custody for over a yr now. Thanks again sweetie. You really are a life saver.
Not at all. My husband’s ex was being nice to him right after we began dating, before their divorce was final. She even went so far as to brag to him about having sex with someone else in the hopes that he would tell her something about our relationship and then she could use it. She was clueless about the law and that he and I were doing nothing illegal. She thought that if he told her that we had been intimate (we had not at the time) that she could use it to get the boys away from him and essentially me. She was vindictive and spiteful and constantly used the boys against him and I don’t trust her to this day because of that. She always has an ulterior motive and some sort of scheme going, but luckily in the last year, it’s been about her live in boyfriend rather than me or the boys.
I simply want to make sure that you realize that while he may be sincere by being nice to you, if it were me, I would be wary of why after all the threats he’s made. No matter how nice he is, your life is none of his business.
You are allowed to date and regardless of whether custody is done, once you are divorced, you can even live with someone. “Shacking up” is no longer illegal in NC. He probably is being nice because you found out about his secret but he may have hopes that you will reveal something about your life…
Gotcha.
Good news, I went to the attorney yesterday and signed the summons for the divorce. I did call him to let him know what was said in it. Read word for word. (Trying to get this divorce over with).
MY question is this.
There was no place for him to sign. I asked them when he is served he was going to sign it then over night it back to my attorney. They said there is not a place for him to sign. So, how is this divorce going to go through with us signing if there isn’t a place for him to sign? I am so confused about that.
Is there a different piece of paper that goes along with this summons?
Does he get it, then call his attorney to write something up saying he agrees for the judge to sign?
Lost.
My attorney called yesterday and told me what has to be done on his part.
The ex and I are kinda at it again. I was wondering something.
We have this temp order done that he is only allowed to have our son in Sept for two week and Nov for two weeks. If we don’t go back to court for custody and visitation, is that the order I stick by?
I’m not sure about the signatures on the divorce papers, hopefully that is something that your attorney explained.
Yes. The only thing that can override a court order is another court order. If you have a temp order stating visitations, then that is what you follow until you have a permanent order. You can choose to negotiate with the ex for a different schedule but then you would not be following the court order…while that may be the best way to work with the ex, it may not look good for you not to follow the court order…
My point on that stepmother is that since he wants to be a butthead then i was wanting to stick with the court order until there is another order.
He wants him during spring break and this summer and i told him no because we don’t have an order stating that. We need to go to court to change the two weeks in Sept and two weeks in Nov.
He doesn’t want to settle stuff right now. So my question is this.
If i stick to the temp order that is in place right now and don’t let him have him on days that aren’t stated in the order, will i get in trouble? Will it look bad on me when we do go to court?
No you will not get into trouble for not following the court order…whether or not it will look bad is up to the judge. My suggestion is to stick to the court order but that when you do go back to court have the wording to read that he receives four weeks per year with the dates being agreed on by both parents and the final decision being up to you the custodial parent. This way the time is the same but there is leeway on when the visitations can take place. Trust me that you need to have some wiggle room on this so that when the child starts school or gets older and is involved in other activities, you can decide whether a requested visistation week will disrupt the child’s schedule.
You want to be fair to the other parent and keep your child’s best interest in mind. For the time being, I would stick with the order and let your ex know that the specified dates could be changed.
Talk to your attorney to make sure that this can be done prior to the permanent custody hearing.
Stepmother you are so awesome. I am so glad that Rosen has someone like you. Erin is the best as well. You guys really show the compassion in issue’s that people have.
I guess when he ask to see our son. I will talk to him and tell him that the order states only this months. If he wants to just make it for the 4 weeks during the summer then he will have to give me a signed notarized statement stating that. I just hope he doesn’t blow up again.
I don’t work for Rosen actually…I’ve just been on this forum for quite a while. Sometimes I don’t have a clue about some of the legal questions but occasionally I do. This site helped me out a great deal when my husband was going through his separation and divorce and has since helped with other issues. I enjoy being able to give back a little peace of mind when I can.
The attorney’s on here can not always get to every question which makes all the posters on this board a great asset. My thanks and appreciation go out to all of them along with the attorneys.
Well today I get a message from the STBX saying he isn’t signing the divorce papers until ED is divided. Grrrrr, he pretty much took everything but for 1 saddle at which my son uses. Not gonna happen on him getting it.
Anyhow he can’t stop the divorce from going through, can he?
What type of paperwork does the ex send in with his response to the request of the divorce? How does he go about getting this divorce over with?
He should be being served any day now. It was filed March 9th. I know he is only getting the same paperwork as I did.
Can someone atleast please answer this question for me. I really would like to know how he responds to what was filed in the court.
I got the same papers as he did. There is no where to sign the divorce papers. So, what does he do? I don’t want to have to wait for another 30 days, plus 3 to 4 weeks more to go to court on this matter.