1st visit to mediation


#1

I was told 2 weeks ago by my spouse she wanted a divorce. Needless to say it has been a difficult couple of weeks.

We are preparing to go to mediation next week to discuss living arrangements and time with our children.

My spouse brings in 70 percent of the net income of the household. There is no way I can survive on my own and maintain a similar lifestyle for me and my kids.

In this meeting which is to only discuss living arrangements and time with the kids, not negotiating property, can I ask for additional money from my spouse?

I expect I can. I know that based on what I have read, I should be entitled to alimony once our separation agreement is finalized. But I want to make sure I have enough to support me and my kids.

What is the best method for requesting this without sounding like I am demanding?

Thank you in advance for your reply.


#2

If your wife intends to physically separate she will have to provide you with some support, this should be part of any temporary agreement you come up with. If she refuses you should file suit for Equitable Distribution, Alimony, Post- Separation Support, Child Custody and Child Support. The court will hear the issue of temporary support fairly quickly and will order that she pay support if you are found to be a dependant spouse, and she a supporting spouse. ( given the facts you list, I believe its safe to assume this is true).

Your need for support is not demanding, it is necessary.