Affair or not


#1

Dear Karen,

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds like you are at a point where you really need to take action.

As far as the email is concerned, I must tell you that going into your spouses email account without their permission may be a violation of federal law. So, don’t do it. As far as what you can do with the information you found, depending on how you found it, it may be used to show that he was committing marital fault. You may want to invest in a private investigator to find out more information.

Until you and your husband have entered into a custody agreement or there has been a court order defining custody, you and he have equal custody of your child. It would not be kidnapping if you took your child out of state. However, you should expect that he would sue you, here in NC, for custody of your child. So, you would have to come back here to defend that action. The best thing for you to do is to try to enter into an agreement that allows you and your child to move out of state.

Given your situation, I doubt abandonment would be an issue. Especially once you let him know that you are aware of his relationship with this other woman.

Talk to an attorney in your area, and get the specifics on how to handle your case.

Good luck!

Shonnese D. Stanback
Attorney
The Rosen Law Firm
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Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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#2

I have found an email from my husband to another girl. She is an old high school girlfriend who is also married with a 4 yr old child. In the email he has told her how much he still loves and cares for her. The email goes into detail of how everytime he sees her he just wants to hold her and all. They both work in the same place. I also work there to. She wrote him back saying she felt the same way. I have a 17 month old son. My question is…is this considered some type of affair? I have family out of state - if I decide to leave would I be able to go to my family or would he be able to say that I kidnapped my own son? Would he be able to get me for abandonment? I have not left yet. I have not completely decided if this is going to divorce or not. I am confused. Please respond.

Karen L Dollar