Alimony is based on your being a dependent spouse. It sounds as though you are a dependent spouse and that your husband has a duty to provide you some support, especially since he has committed some marital misconduct. Alimony is a complex claim to prove, and I would not recommend trying to pursue it without an attorney. You mentioned that you have children. To improve your financial situation sooner, you may be able to seek child support more economically by applying to the Child Support Enforcement Agency. Here is a link to their website: http://www.dhhs.state.nc.us/dss/cse/cse_hm.htm
How much child support you can get will depend on the number of children you have. You can try our child support calculator at http://www.rosen.com/ppf/ID/56/issues.asp.
There is no formula for alimony, and results of alimony claims vary widely, so I can’t predict how much you might be awarded. However, a supporting spouse’s child support obligation is deducted from his income first, before alimony is determined. Alimony is then based on your reasonable financial needs and your spouse’s ability to pay.
Lara Stanford Davis
The Rosen Law Firm
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Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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