I need to know if I am justified in asking for the financial support I think I need to be on my own. I will give the basics, although the process to get to this point has been complicated.
I have been w/ my husband for 13 years, married 5 1/2. I spent years trying to get love and attention, and the past 3 years gave up giving, but still tried to work things out, asked for counseling, begged, fought, etc, w/ no response other than indifference. We have 2 kids, 10 and 2. Jan 2005 I told him I wanted a divorce, and he moved out. I live in NC in a rented house that is now up for sale. He has had a job/jobs for 95% of our relationship that he is over the road which meant I could not work because of childcare issues, and I wanted to stay home to be w/ children because he was never there, and when he was he had checked out emotionally.
For at least 4 years that I am aware (he will not give me an answer) he has been on the internet and cell phone visting sites intended for affairs or chatting with other women. I found out and asked him 2 stop and begged for couseling, which he never did. Our son is an emotional wreck and has been in counseling. I had to take him to the hospital because he was threatening to hurt me and himself, incurring a 400 bill. My ex says he thinks it was uneccesary and I was being dramatic so he should not have to pay for it.
I am planning on moving when house sells (probably June) and working and being on my own. My skills I figure I can make about 500 a week gross. My ex makes can make anywhere between 1000 to 5000 or more a week. I asked that he pay the bills and for what I need until I work and am in a new place, help me the first cople months financially in the new place then give support fo kids (not determined yet) He agreed, then says I am using him for money, then agrees, then says he shouldnt have to pay anything but basic rent and utilities. its back and forth. He says I chose to divorce him so he shouldnt have to suffer. I think because of my situation, he should have to provide what I am asking and Im being more than fair. Am I wrong? Every time he gets paid it is a fight how much money I am allowed to use. The current situation, I have no extra $ for things like car mainteance, medical, or savings to move. Plaease advise what is fair/or right. I tried to do it between us, but court is looking to be in the future.