AoA & Criminal Conversation


#1

If your stbx can show that this person alienated your affections from him, that you had a viable marriage (meaning without this persons interference you would still be “happily” married)he can file suit against him for alienation of affection. It is expensive to sue for this and time consuming, aggrivating. From what I’ve read on these forums, an attorney will write a letter “threatening” a lawsuit unless a settlement is reached and if the person in question is guilty, they usually pay a settlement to keep it from court. If there is nothing to prove, then it can go to court and be decided if this person had anything to do with the demise of your marriage.

Criminal conversation or adultery is a misdemeanor and is the actual act of sex with someone other than your spouse. There is a 3 year statute of limitations after knowledge of the act. Though it is rarely prosecuted, it is illegal and it can have an affect on alimony.

On a side note, it sounds to me as though your stbx is probably blowing smoke to “scare” you into signing an agreement or getting you to give in on something that he wants…don’t respond. Don’t get worked up unless you see an official court document…and if there is nothing to the accusation, then don’t let it worry you any more.


#2

Alienation of Affection is a lawsuit that can be filed against a third party for interfering with your marital relationship and alienating your feelings from your spouse. It is generally someone you are romantically involved with but not necessarily, it could also be a mother in law, or a co-worker. However, the co-worker must have take some act to try and alienate your feelings from your spouse.

Criminal conversation applies only when you have had a sexual relationship with a third party.

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#3

The AofA can be a very touchy one. I too thought of persuing this one but, after careful research it would have been time consuming and expensive something I don’t have alot of right now (LOL) but, the question I wanted to ask with the Criminal Conversation althought its a misdeameanor is there any jail time or just probation. Because my STBX is now involved with a guy sexually and he resides at the house with our children and we are only 9 months into the separation that I might add we have no agreement in place (writing) on verbal on CS and visitation. I mean we are still legally married… I’ve asked the forum which I might add has been a monderful and useful source of knowledge. I was just planning my next step… Stepmom has always posted some good insights on topic I hope she weights in on this one. Again, good luck with you situation… We are going to get through this soon.

CPATT

Corey B. Patterson


#4

I’m actually not sure what the “punishment” for adultery would be. It’s hardly ever pursued but it being a misdemeanor I would say that it’s very little.

Sadly, there’s very little that can be done when one spouse doesn’t bother with the moral side of this issue.
My husband’s ex had her boyfriend living with her after only knowing him 2 weeks. They had an agreement which stated about the no one of the opposite sex overnight while the children were present so anytime we questioned a scenario it was…he moved in next door with the woman with an alternative lifestyle. He didn’t stay all night but stayed late and then came back over early…and my favorite was when they all went on vacation together (kids too) and we were told he slept in the car all week.
I’m not condeming anyone who has a relationship, sexual or otherwise, before they are divorced. It was our own personal feeling and decision that we did not want his children to think that was the right way to live. We wanted to show them that we believed since we were not married we should not live together.
My suggestion to anyone who is dealing with this, especially with children involved: Let them know that you are there for them and love them. As long as your child(ren) are not being neglected or harmed, don’t worry about what the other parent is doing or not doing. Focus your attention on those children and yourself. Do not make this a contest to try to show the other spouse who loves the children more or who was more committed to the marriage. For whatever reason, that part of your life is coming to an end and now it’s your time. Take what you will out of that relationship, keep in mind that that person is always going to be part of who you are, and start planning for your new life.
I wish I could tell you something that would help more, but all I can offer is this. It does get easier, the pain does lessen and after a while, you can look back and hopefully realize that this is the way things were supposed to be. Good Luck!


#5

Will someone please explain the statues concerning AoA and Criminal Conversation? My STBX is saying that b/c i was co-workers w/ someone, he can file an AoA lawsuit against him. (NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING was there except the fact that we were co-workers) He says that it is this persons fault that i have no feelings for him - WRONG!!! He took care of destroying my feelings for him all by himself.