My ex-girlfriend took our 2-month-old child (born in NC) from our home in NC to VA 3 months ago. She has refused to discuss custody/visitation/co-parenting and will not even communicate at this point. I do not know where they are living or who is taking care of my daughter when her mother is at work. We lived together in NC for a year before the baby was born. My name is on the birth certificate and I was completely involved in the birth and care of my child; my ex and her family acknowledge that I am an excellent father. She is now threatening to file something with the court in VA, but will not tell me why or what it is.
Because of financial and transportation problems, I have not been able to get to VA to try to talk to my ex (who says she will not see me) or see my child. I know I need to take some kind of action, but don’t want to start a "custody war” with my daughter’s mother, as I don’t believe that would be good for our child. I do want joint custody and as much visitation as possible so that I, my parents, and other family members can be involved in my daughter’s life. How can I get my ex to bring our child back to NC, come to a custody/visitation agreement, and co-parent our child?
My ex was born in VA, but moved to NC 4 years ago to live and work for the state. She went back to VA 3 mos. ago. As far as I know, she has been living with friends and relatives, and has a part time job. Is she still a legal resident of NC?