I hope I get a response to this soon. We really need to know what to expect. My step-children are with us this weekend. Apparently their mother hasn’t been doing well, as was finally admitted by my husband’s oldest child. Anyway, the question was finally asked by them while I was out today. They wanted to know, if and when their mom passes away, if they could just continue to live in the house they are in now and just visit us every other weekend. My husband informed them that he is their father and he fully intended for them to live here. The reason they don’t want to live here? We don’t “do enough with them”. Well, it’s kind of hard to do much with them when they are only here every other weekend-sometimes not even then. We have gone as long as 3 months without ever seeing them. We can’t even take them on vacation, because their mother won’t permit it. They ONLY follow her rules and if she tells them they are not allowed to go somewhere, they will not go with us-they will to back to her house. But they blame it on us, not her. Since they are only here every other weekend (and one refuses to spend the night at all, going back to their mother’s each evening), we don’t buy a lot of “toys” since they outgrow them before they even get played with. In addition to that, we sent more than $1800/month to that home in child support and alimony (alimony–even though she is remarried!). We literally have trouble making it from pay check to pay check, having to borrow money from our parents for things such as car repair. However their mother has them convinced that we are rich, but are hiding it because we don’t want to buy things for them. So, since they “get more” at their mom’s house, they want to stay over there. We really need to know in the event of her death, what to expect. What rights does my husband, THEIR FATHER, have???