Yesterday, I posted a thread titled “Custody Question (Getting a Job)”. It’s only a few threads down - the particulars of my situation are there.
Well, some new info has since come to light, and I could use advice on it as well (if you have the time).
I found out my wife is looking at another house, and very well may be planning to move out herself. This is fine with me, as I’d have no problem staying here. I just don’t want to be around her anymore.
(NOTE - I kinda doubt she’s going to be able to move anywhere, though, as she doesn’t really have the $$, and where the house she’s supposedly looking at is, she’s have to drive a good 60 mins to work. Just doesn’t ‘sound right’, if that makes sense.)
Anyway, here are my questions:
-As I stated in the other thread, I currently don’t have a job. If she leaves (esp before I find gainful employment), am I then entitled to support? Is there any way to enforce this?
-If I leave, I could care less about the items in the house. But if I’m going to stay, then I want the stuff that’s here. There is a lot I could care less about (decorations, nick-nacks, etc.), but the big things like most of the furniture, electronics, etc, I want to keep here. How can I keep her from taking it? At what point would I be ‘Ok’ (allowed?) to change the locks on the doors?
-In my other thread, I mentioned she had two boys that I’ve helped raise for the past 10 years, and we have a daughter. I know she’s talked to the oldest boy about if she were to leave, then would he go with her, and he told her he didn’t want to (esp since he’s getting ready to go into his senior year in high school, he wants to graduate w/his friends, etc, and she would be moving into another county).
I love the boys dearly, however, I don’t want to be responsible for them. It’s not that I don’t care for them, but they shouldn’t be my legal responsibility when we separate. How can I make her take them with her (even if they don’t want to go)? I’ve not adopted the boys and don’t have any sort of legal claim except being a stepdad by marriage.
-It’s very well possible that if she’s looking to move into another place, that she’d be moving in with her boyfriend. Can I “use” (for lack of a better term) this in any way re our separation and later divorce if this does indeed end up being the case?
Thanks for your time.