Greetings. Yes, you can get visitation established through negotiations prior to your divorce, but you can also negotiate the visitation schedule after the divorce. Right now, he cannot simply pick them up whenever he feels. Tell him no. E-mail him a schedule and both of you try to stick to it.
Now, as far as the support, of course you can get that. You should see an attorney to assist you. You may also be entitled to alimony, so make sure you do that prior to the divorce. Best of luck.
Janet L. Fritts
Attorney with Rosen Divorce
4101 Lake Boone Trail, Suite 500
Raleigh, North Carolina 27607
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