Clarification re: Do-it-yourself divorce

You will need to have an agreement regarding the house in a written, notarized, legally binding contract before you finalize the divorce. The issues are dealt with separately. I cannot tell you if the document you intend to draft would be legally binding without looking at it first.

You should not move forward with the divorce until you have resolved this issue.

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My spouse and I have been seperated for over a year now and would like to continue the divorce proceedings. We are good friends and the split has been entirely amicable.

Given that we are on good terms, and also relatively strapped financially, we had assumed that a do-it-yourself divorce would be our best option.

We do own a house together. He is currently living in the house and I reside in an apartment. He is paying the entire mortgage of the house, I am paying rent on my apartment. With the housing market being what it is, we are not interested in selling the house at this time and would like to continue joint ownership, even after the divorce. Our plan is that when we do eventually sell the house, he will get credit for the amount that he has paid on the mortgage. We were going to spell all this out in a document that we both sign and then have notarized, and was hoping that would suffice for the property distribution.

I am a bit confused, however, if we can continue with a do-it-yourself divorce given the statement on your site "If you have not yet completed all action related to your alimony claim or property distribution claim you should not do your own absolute divorce.

Can (or should we) still go forward with a do-it-yourself divorce? What impact would this have on our jointly shared property and our individual legal claims to the property after the divorce (we are both listed on the mortgage and the deed.)

Thank you for any help!