Custody Mediation

don’t bring kids. Keep an open mind. Don’t assume the mediator will take sides and don’t try and “win them over”. They typically will want you to take the stance of moving forward w/ issues, instead of dwelling on the past. The key will be what is in the “best interest” of the kids.

Also, keep in mind that this is an effort to work out arrangements so that all this will not have to be decided in court. The more you can work out between you the less likely it is it will need to go to court.
Keep an open mind and be willing to compromise on visitation dates, and things like clothes purchases, copays, and visit travel. Don’t try to prove to the other parent that you love or can care for the child(ren) better or that the child(ren) love you more.
Your child(ren) deserve to have both parents involved in their lives and should not be forced to choose between you two. Ultimately, the best scenario in this situation is for you two to work together to raise the child(ren) separately.

Do not bring your children and go into it with an open mind and a clear idea of what you want and why you want it.

Helena M. Nevicosi
Attorney with Rosen Law Firm

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