I am married to a man who is controlling and emotionally abusive. I am working on preparations for a divorce and have not told anyone of my plans. One of the steps I’ve been advised to take is to document the abuse. How is the best way to go about doing this? A lot of it is very subtle and after being married to him for 20 years I am just now able to identify much of it for what it is. How do I dicument it in a way that makes it clear to a third party that there is acually abuse going on?
My concern is for my younger children when it comes to visitations with him. He is not physically abusive but his behavior makes me reluctant to leave them with him now, and this will be worse after we are seperated. That is my main goal in documenting his behavior.