I’ve been married since February of 2009, have been putting up with domestic violence and a bipolar man for 4 years now. We have a 2 1/2 year old son.
In March, I finally had him arrested for assaulting me in front of our child. He did 2 nights in jail, then emerged repentant and sorry (as he always had in the past. An act I never bought.) He started receiving mental help yet again and started taking his meds (something he would take just to get out of other court charges. Every time he gets arrested for various things, he manipulates his way out of them.) He kept telling me he was sincere about changing (something I knew in the back of my mind was a lie, as he is a pathological liar.)
Well he got his case for assaulting me continued, and then come to find out that this Friday, I was supposed to be in court apparently, and he got the case against him dismissed, and the order stating that he must stay away from me dropped. Now there is a show cause warrant on me, which is ridiculous because I was told by him that it was continued until August, and I’m the victim in this, and once again he’s got away with it scot free.
There is a vehicle he bought with our tax returns earlier this year that he would not let me drive most of the time, because he is controlling, in fact the night I had him arrested, I finally got the “privelege” of using the Jeep, and went to my mom’s, and because I didn’t come back when he wanted me to, he beat me up. Also he’s just freely moved himself back in our house, which is actually a rental, and he’s buddies and business partners with our landlord so I know eventually I’ll have to leave.
Why has the justice system failed me? How can I get the Jeep in court, or the money from the sales? How can I keep custody of my child? He did the same thing to his ex-wife, and then ran off with the child and sued his ex (who he controlled and beat like he does to me) and ended up getting his controlling mother involved, and they lied about his ex wife saying she was abusive and his mother ended up getting full custody.
My questions are: How can I get the Jeep? I don’t want alimony, just the Jeep, he got it with tax refund, and he got a child credit for our son who he didn’t even take care of. I feel it’s owed to me. (We separated shortly after marrying and for 6 months, I was at my mother’s with my child, so why does he get to benefit from the child credit?)
Secondly, how can I manage to keep custody of my child in this situation when he’s proven time and time again to be a manipulative sociopath who seems to be able to get away with everything? He got away with his domestic violence, just like he got away with assaulting his stepdad the year before, and assaulting my friend (also a female) the same year, and shooting his gun in a neighbor’s yard last year! My mother is a sergeant at the jail and she told me he was up there trying to get his gun back from the gun charge, and he’s going to end up killing me all because of the justice system.